Friday 18 March 2011

My first time at a Spiritualist Church

It was my first time and I was pretty sceptical. My girlfriends family are all reasonably spiritual, but not in a weird hippy-like sense, especially my girlfriends sister who can sense and often see spirits. Now I'm pretty open minded but also very logical, I don't discredit these sorts of things straight away I just need proof if I am to be fully won over.

Now If you don't know a medium is a person who can receive and transmit messages from the deceased to the living.

So after the hymns were over which was pretty awkward for me as I'm not religious (this isn't an attack on religion I'm very accepting of peoples faiths it's just not for me!) the medium took to the stage. At first she pointed out my girlfriend and said to her that the spirits were saying that one day she would be doing the same job and that she has the potential to become a very successful medium. This was freaking me out a bit but my girlfriend was super calm, as if the news that she will be contacted by ghosts was ok. I was pretty stunned but not as stunned as I would become.

"Is this a partner" the medium said turning to me

"Yes he's my boyfriend" Hayley replied.

"Oh dear" I thought.

the medium then went on to say she was getting contacted by my granny who had past away over the last summer apparently my gran said that she knows that I've accomplished more than I thought I could, which is true because I've always lacked faith in my abilities until it became apparent to me that I could graduate this summer with a 2:1. My gran also said she likes my current girlfriend and that we should stay together which is true I guess, we are having a lot of fun at the moment and it's going really well. Then my granny said something that will resonate in my mind forever.

So the medium continued;

"There is one thing she wanted to talk about, and that's the alcohol"

Now just for the record I'm not an alcoholic but I do like to party because I'm at uni in my third year and I'm just making the most of it before I have to leave and be ultra responsible.

She continued:

"Your granny, she was quite confused when she passed wasn't she?"

"Yes she was very old (92) and very forgetful"

"Ok, well every time you wake up with a hangover and don't know what day it is, your gran said that that is what it was like towards the end"

My Granny did always have a wicked sense of humour.

"Right, Ok, I'll watch that then Granny, Thanks?"

"But she also says she very very proud of you and of what you have achieved, just watch the drink."

I've always wondered what my deceased relatives thought of what I was doing in life and I've always wanted them to be proud of me and to finally hear it, whether it was true or not was really quite touching.

Now at first I was like OK the medium could have got lucky with the death of a grandparent and saw I was a young male in my 20's who often likes to drink so made those conclusions for herself. But then I remembered the conversation between me, my girlfriend and her sister in the car on the way there. I said.

"If I do get a message it will probably be from my gran or grandad and I bet they'll warn me about drinking so much". This was meant to be a joke.

And there it was, there was no way that medium could have heard that conversation. she then proceeded to communicate with the spirit of my girlfriends sisters friend who died in a car accident and described him and his mannerisms extremely accurately and gave her a message saying he was sorry for driving too fast and causing the accident. The medium then passed other weirdly accurate messages to other people in the audience.

So yea it didn't have me reaching for a bible and repenting my sins but it has made me think a lot. I came away from the evening quite shocked, it was difficult to take in for me, I'm the sort of person who needs proof to believe these things are seemingly, there it was, right in front of me. Everyone else was really cool with it, as if talking to ghosts was totally normal and I was sat there pretty wide eyed and pale.

My girlfriends family have been a few times and they have seen some bad mediums who are really quite vague and rubbish and they said this lady we had was one of the best, she was blunt, straight to the point with no waffling around to try and get clues. I'll probably go again because this stuff interests me but then again, that's what the spirits said too.